Good morning to sunny skies and…oh wait…chance of showers again in Edmonton!
On that note, I’d like to chat about guilt tripping. First off, not cool. If you have to guilt someone into doing something for you, getting an apology, or just because being a jerk is how you feel today then you my friend are not a very good friend.
Now I’m not saying life is all thorns and no roses but how about just having a normal conversation?
You want something from a person: then ask
Want and apology: Well did the person even realize you were offended, being overly sensitive,blah blah blah? Dude, talk to them and just lay it all out on the table before one day Mr.Cubicle #5 has just had enough and marches over to Mr.Cubicle #3, stapler in hand with a crazed look in their eye. *PAUSE* now that is one trip to the ER no person wants to take. Doctor’s report reads: Excessive facial wounds cause by staples…ouch!
Now I must admit, I have most definitely guilt-tripped someone along the way and I bet they didn’t appreciate it. So, let’s just all admit guilt-tripping happens. It sucks. Now move on.
If you are a strong enough individual to ignore the guilt-trip, good on ya! If not, grow a backbone dammit!
However, at the end of the day the guilt-trippers of the world need to be called out on their BS. No one wants to be cajoled into doing something or changing just to make the guilt-tripper happy. (I’m looking at all those boyfriends, girlfriends, wives and husbands who want to make their “perfect partner” or feel threatened by the other’s success and make little snide comments about it. DO NOT even try to deny it!) Sure a little comment shouldn’t bother someone but say it a couple of times and see what the difference is between sleeping in bed or on the couch.
To end this blog post with a positive tone I’m recommending everyone watch the movie “The Guilt Trip” Seth Rogan and Barbara Streisand team up as son and mother for quite the hilarious adventure. Laugh a little and have some fun!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RjQIP8D880M
Stay classy!
~E